To bury a brother / Lisa And Nic Loring (mom and Brother )
Near David's casket Nick paused to look at his little brother's body that the Lord had took
all who were watching did not speak as a silent tear ran down his cheek
and through his mind the memories ran of the moments that they had walked, played, climbed, and ran
but now David's eyes were so terribly cold and Nick would never again have him to hold
we watched in silence as he bent very near and whispered the words... "I LOVE YOU" in his ear
he touched his face and started to cry as he placed the garland, he, himself wanted to die
and just then the wind began to blow as they put his body into the cove...
this is what happens to man alive... when friends let friends... drink and drive.
My son Nick was 19 the day we gave David his final passage. He had all ready grown, but had now become a man. Too much for a young man to take, please don't you make the same mistake!
Until I see you again / Nic Aarnio (Brother)
Never thought it could be you, I never wanted it to. My other half of me just disappeared. Darkness came as fast as you got your angel wings.
My tears will never go away, My heart feels like its been thrown away. When I heard the news, I fell to my knees. Not wanting to get up,
I heard you say it'll be okay. Memories running through my head not believing my brother's life was gone. I sit there thinking about you, wanting to have you.
I couldn't see those big green eyes, there's not a smile that could ever be replaced. God, take this pain away from me. I never got to say goodbye, I want you to answer me why. I WAS TOO LATE TO TAKE HIS PLACE,
but all I can do is wait. Till then I'll be missing him. Cant wait for the Day when God calls me, so I can see you again David
Love Nic
We are connected / Lisa Loring (mama)
We are connected, My child and I, by an invisible cord, not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord that connects us 'til birth This cord can't be seen by any on Earth.
This cord does its work right from the start. It binds us together, attatched to my heart.
I know that it's there, though no one can see, The invisible cord from my child to me.
The strength of this cord is hard to describe. It can't be destroyed, it can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord man could create, It withstands the test, can hold any weight.
And though you are gone, Though you are not here with me,
The cord is still there, but no one can see. It pulls at my heart, I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline, as never before. I am thankful that God connects us this way,
A mother and child--Death can't take it away!
I'll be there-Our first Christmas apart / Lisa Loring (mother) I WILL BE THERE
tomorrow I will be there Though you may not see
I'll smile and remember The last Christmas, with you and me
Don't be sad mom I'm never far away
Your heart has hidden sight My memory will always stay
I watched as you touched the ornaments Sometimes a tear was shed as you did
I touched you gently on your shoulder And on tiptoes I proudly stood
I'm only gone for a little while mom I'm waiting for the day to be
When God calls out your name mom We'll be together, just you wait and see
But until that time comes Carry on as you did when I was there
I tell the angels how much I love you There are angels here everywhere!
I stand behind you some days When I know that you are sad
I want you to be happy mom It would make my heart so glad
So on this Christmas Eve, Mom Think of me as I will be thinking of you
And touch that special ornament That I once made for you I love you mom also I know you know I do
And I'll be waiting here for you When your earthly life is through
Love, David
Brothers Love / Nic Aarnio (Davids brother ) A brother's love is unconditional; A brother's love is pure A lifelong bond that will forever and always endure A brother's love wipes away your tears It urges us through our many fears A brother's love is beautiful and kind Forever withstanding the sands of time A brother's love brings a smile to our saddened face It eases the pain away from this everyday place A brother's love opens your heart Because of your life he is a part.
DAVID I MISS YOU BRO
from Nic
im sorry for your loss / Anna Marchese (none)
first off i just want to let everyone know who i am... i am one of matt's ex-girlfriends and i just want to say thank you to lisa loring for being genuine in forgiving matt! its true what they say... teens drink and party and experiment, and yes he was stupid in his actions no doubt, but he didnt mean to kill anyone! matt is the sweetest person i think i have ever let into my life and for as long as i have known him, which dates back to my first year of middle school, he has always been a great kid. no matter the differences we both experienced i have always and still do love matt deeply and i commend lisa for your forgiveness! that takes a trmendous amount of courage and heart. i did nt know david personally but he sounded like a very special kid and i am sorry for everyone's loss! god bless!
About David's Profile Song: "Tattva" by Kula Shaker / Lisa Loring (mother) About David's song Tattva, by Kula Shaker
Tattva, acintya bheda abheda tattva (x4)
Like the flower and the scent of summer, like the sun and the shine Well the truth may come in strange disguises, send a message to your mind
Tattva, acintya bheda abheda tattva (x4)
At the moment that you wake from sleeping, and you know it's all a dream Well the truth may come in strange disguises, never knowing what it means
Tattva, acintya bheda abheda tattva (x4)
For you shall be tomorrow, like you have been today If this was never ending, what more can you say?
acintya-bhedabheda-tattva
But what does this mean?
Acintya-bhedåbheda-tattva
(Simultaneous oneness and difference of the Lord and His potencies.The living entities (jîvas), the material world , and the Lord’s personal splendour as regards His Vaikuv†ha existence are inconceivably one and different from His original spiritual form . The anucit-jîvas, on account of being dependent on the Lord, are His separated parts and parcels—in this is found their non-distinction from the Lord (abheda). However, due to an absence of knowledge of the Supreme Lord, they are preoccupied with the material energy—in this lies their difference (bheda).
In other words... Though we come in various forms and though we are all individuals, we all come from the same source, we are made of the same material/substance, but we are very much different from each other physically. The same is true for everything in nature.
As for "Tattva", tattva means reality, principle, and truth. It can be thought of as an awakening, when one realizes that there is more to life than what he sees through his eyes.
A better way to look at it is like this: There is no creation of the living entity. We are eternal entities, separated expansions of the One Lord. From the angle of the Lord, He is everything, including us. From the angle of the separated expansion, we are different from the Lord. Thus, there is simultaneous oneness and difference/inscrutable simultaneous distinction and non-distinction ("tattva achintya bheda bheda tattva") based on the angle of vision of the perceiver.
I am so very sorry for your loss / Kimberly (Site visitor ) I visit this site often, I like to make sure that I always understand that there may not be a tomorrow to look forward to and to be grateful for today. I also want to pay tribute to people that I may not have known, yet their lives have touched others and their stories have touched mine. My heart truly aches each time I read a tribute to someone that has left so many broken hearts to mend.
You are so amazingly brave to be so open about how David passed, all the while trying to teach others, during your time of tragedy, the consequences of adults buying alcohol for minors.
What I truly want to say is David was so very blessed to have you for a Mother and such loving, wonderful brothers and family as well. This is such a beautiful tribute and speaks volumes of what a loving mother you must be.
David may be physically gone yet he will never, ever leave your heart's and soul's. Nothing can take that away. He will always be your son and the boys brother.
I pray for you in your time of grief and please know that I was very touched by your tribute and shed many tears as well as enjoyed getting to know a little about David. God Rest His Soul.
Kimberly Boston MA
A Sure & A Most Wonderful Hope / DI Gordon I am so very sorry for your loss of David. May I offer you my sincere condolences. When I lost my son I had much support and encouragement from others but especially the comfort for a wonderful future which simply delights the heart I wish to share. In reading the Gospel of John Chapter 11 it reveals the deep love and care Jesus has for us all. It's an account Jesus shares with us of his friend Lazarus. In the 33rd and 35th verse John tells us he (Jesus) "groaned and became troubled" and shortly afterward he "gave qay to tears" when he heard his friend Lazarus had died. But what Jesus said and did when he arrived in Bethany was a cause for astonishment for the family and townspeople who had gathered. When he arrived his friend had already been put to rest in his memorial tomb four days earlier. After Jesus prayed to his heavenly Father (John 11:41,42) he called "Lazarus, come out!" To the amazement of all Lazarus walked out with his burial wrappings on him. Jesus had resurrected his friend to life and returned him to his famly and friends. This is why Jesus said in John 5:28, "Do not marvel at this, the hour is coming when all those in their memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out." Jesus also had the Apostle John write the book of Revelation. In Revelation 21:4 it reads: "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes and death will be no more neither willmourning nor outcry or pain be any more. The former things have passed away." ... Can you imagine death itself "having passed away"! Verse 5 continues, "and the One seated on the throne said: Look! I am making all things new." Also, he says: "Write, because these words are faithful and true." ... A Guiarantee and in writing! It is no wonder in Psalm 37:29 it reads, "The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it." ... What an absolute thrill to look forward to seeing David running to meet you with outstretched arms with a glorious smile. What does this all mean? It means-living forever on a paradised earth! There is a brochure that explains it even more along with practical help during this grievous time for you. It is entitled 'When Someone You Love Dies' It is available at no charge from any one of Jehovah's Witnesses you may come in contact with or call a local Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses to make your request. Also, some funeral homes now carry it. Draw close to God in prayer and he promises that "he will sustain you." May God's Word and peace and holy spirit support you during this difficult time.
Look out for the signs / Lesley Dear Lisa
You don't know me but my heart reaches out to yours across the ocean because I also lost a tough, joyful, fearless son at the age of 17. Having walked the road through grief for 2 and a half years now I wanted to reach out to you and tell you that the heartache never goes away but what I do know is that THEY NEVER LEAVE US - if you are aware, you will see signs and you will have dreams that confirm that our bond with our sons is eternal. I invite you to visit my son Mark's site and read his legacy section where we have documented the many ways his spirit has managed to reach us.
I send you much light and love and feel your pain.
Bereaved Parents Wish List / Maria (. Joshua Perez) Mom I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.
I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my sons name. My son lived and is very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.
If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my son, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My sons death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my son and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child; my favorite topic of the day
I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my sons death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my son until the day I die.
I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my son and I will always grieve that he is dead.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself. I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily. I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my son died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my son died and I will never be that person again.
I wish very much that you could understand; understand my loss and my grief. But, I pray daily that you will never " fully " understand....
My boy / Lisa Loring (mother) A Little boy A special friend A little fighter Right to the end. Gone from our lives But not from our hearts We'll keep you there always Like we have from the start.
Peace/ Nick Aarnio (brother)
♠Confessions of a Bound Soul♠♠ / Nick Aarnio (brother)
Brother, my brother, How selfish was I While you seemed to struggle, I sat idly by. Brother, my brother, Yes, try as I might, I now realize It was also my fight. Brother, my brother Now look at your arm, It's cold and immovable, Lost all its charm. Brother, my brother Now look at your leg, There's so much left missing Yet not once did you beg. Brother, dear brother Listen when I say, I will stick by your side, Until this goes away. Brother, dear brother Listen when I say I will stick by your side Until our final day.
DAVID I MISS U BRO NIC
No more chains that bind me / Lisa Loring (mother) Why does my body betray my winged spirit? My spirit soars and flies free
Though my body grounds me I long to soar with it
Free flying my body longs to be Not just in my imagination
Not just through my minds eye It wants to fly where my spirit truly goes
To break the chains that bind me To fly with no limitations
No physical pain No emotional pain No spiritual pain No realities but those I make myself
Such a place that would be Not just in my minds eye, or imaginations
A place of my own realities such as they may be Come fly with me
Leave our earth bound bodies Damaged as they are
Let us fly and live our imaginations When they see us, they will smile at our joy
Then they will weep at their lose Weep for their fear of joining with us
Weep for their fear of flying free Chained forever earthbound by their fears
I Am StillWith You / Chemah Whitehorse (none)
I Am Still With You
I give you this one thought to keep - I am with you still - I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the sweet uplifting rush, of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft starts that shine at night. Do not think of me as gone -
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